We can all feel ill-equipped to deal with the big, and even small things, in life. Whether you’re trying to get back on track or there’s an insurmountable mountain ahead of you, the one key characteristic we can all benefit from is having mental reserves in droves.
But this is, naturally, easier said than done. What can we all do to ensure, that when faced with a problem, life-altering or not, that we know how to tackle it, and have the mental reserves in place?
There Is Nothing Wrong With Help
Whether you are waiting for the results of an HIV test or you are waiting on the outcome from a job interview, if you feel the anxiety is crippling you, a problem shared is a problem halved. There is nothing wrong with help to give you, not just the reassurance, but another perspective.
The big thing we can all struggle with is that we believe we have to do it all ourselves. There is nothing wrong with getting help, especially if there’s a problem that you feel you’re not able to tackle. When it comes to problems, another perspective is vital. Sometimes we can make a decision in our own heads without consulting anyone else, and believe it to be impossible, so we’ve already fulfilled our self-fulfilling prophecy.
Stop Worrying About Controlling The Situation
Safety is all about keeping things under control, but if we start to think we have the power to keep everything in our midst under control, this belies a lot of anxious sentiments. Instead of trying to control the environment we are in, it’s better to focus on managing our anxiety. We have to let these things go because there are parts of life that we cannot control, and if we spend a lot of time worrying about these things, and focus on the things that really matter, our happiness levels increase sufficiently.
Stop Dwelling On The Past
If there’s a given in life, it’s that you cannot change anything that has happened in the past. By focusing on what has happened, it stops you from staying in the present and preparing for the future. Because you can worry about the past, this is why something like depression can creep up.
You can use the past, not to dwell on it, but to reflect. Look at situations in life where you could have done things differently. This means that you don’t repeat the same mistakes, and you can get on with this big thing they call “life.” When things in life throw you a curveball, you can find ways to accept responsibility for what happened, but you can also prepare adequately. This is where getting help can provide another perspective.
Scaling that mountain when it comes to life-altering situations isn’t just about having strength, but it’s about a perspective of what has happened and what you are going through. Sometimes, we can find ourselves worrying ourselves about the littlest things, but then when you start to think about the world, and truly gain a perspective of the various problems, this perspective can help.