Most of us will mess up from time to time. We’ll make a mistake, or a series of mistakes, that take us off our life’s course and leaves us feeling worried about the future. We are, after all, only humans and humans are not perfect.

The important thing is to, when you find yourself in the situation of having messed up, get back on your horse and get your life back on track. If you worry and wallow and try to deny what is wrong with your life, you’ll either stagnate or things will end up getting much worse.

Ok, so how do you get your life back on track after a screw up of any size?


Identify the Cause

If you can identify the cause of your screw up, then you can stop going over and over it in your mind and start thinking about solutions. It is only when you know what went wrong and why it went wrong that you can ever hope to do something about it and get back to where you are supposed to be.

Get Some Help

Some of our problems and failures we can put right ourselves, but some of them are so big that we need all of the help and support we can find to get back on track again. For example, if your life has taken a downward turn because you’ve developed a problem with alcohol, you’d be much better off getting treatment from sympathetic professionals at than you would trying to kick the habit alone.

If you’ve lost all motivation in life and gone off course because you’ve become depressed, seeing a therapist will undoubtedly do more good than locking yourself away at home ruminating on your depression and what you may be able to do to solve it. Ask yourself honestly if you can get through this on your own, and if you can’t, talk to someone else, even if it’s just a friend.

Create a Schedule

If you’ve identified what went wrong and you’re seeking some help, it’s definitely going to be useful to create a schedule that gets you up and working on your issues in a structured way every day. Having a plan makes it easier to stay on track and builds up healthy habits that will see you well throughout your whole life. You just need to make sure that you stick to any schedule you create!

Cut Yourself Some Slack

As I said before, we all mess up from time to time, so although it might feel like the end of the world to you, it really isn’t. You need to cut yourself some slack as you work to make life better again because if you don’t, your mental health is likely to take a downturn and that will make everything even more difficult than it needs to be. If you struggle to be kind to yourself, loving-kindness meditation, which you can learn at, or radical acceptance therapy might help. Give it a go and see how you get on.


If you never give up, you will eventually get to where you want to be, throw in the towel and you’ll remain stuck. Which one will it be?

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Jamie Sanders is a freelance writer for many media outlets. She married her soulmate and writer, Dennis Sanders. They live in Boston with their two dogs.

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