As wonderful as it is when you get pregnant, this can come in a variety of stresses. You may feel that you need to acquire more knowledge just so you can navigate this long and stressful journey. But with this in mind, we have to learn how to cope with various stresses during our pregnancy.
This means that you have to have an understanding of, not just your own stresses, but the worries that impacts every single mother to be. What are the main worries, and how can we overcome them?
Having A Healthy Baby
It’s one of those things that we can worry ourselves sick over, especially during the early stages. And while there are so many mothers out there that, upon discovering that they have an unhealthy baby, that goes to an abortion clinic, if we have any concerns over the health of our baby, it’s always best to go to a medical professional.
We have to remember that every mother goes through this, and we need to take it in our stride as best we can. The first 12 weeks are undoubtedly the hardest, but once we get to 12 weeks, there’s a lot less chance of any complications. During the early days, it can be so psychologically demanding, but we’ve got to negotiate the bumps in the road.
The Little Personal Stresses
It’s a little thing, but when you think about telling your family that you are “with child,” especially for the first time, there can be in-laws and parents, that feel you don’t know what what you are in for, and will proceed to tell you the most gruesome and, frankly, unhelpful aspects of being pregnant.
Even people in the street can pass comment, and while the little stresses of everyday life are only fleeting, they can certainly add up to a lot. Throw into the mix morning sickness and rushes of hormones, and it’s a cocktail of stress. What’s important is that you get into the right mind frame. Because we all have little stresses in our lives, when we look (and feel) very pregnant, it’s the last thing that we want to hear, especially if someone decides to pass comment on if you’re able to cope with being a mother or not.
You can politely tell these people that they are being unhelpful, especially if they are close friends or family members, and if they take offense, well, that’s their problem. Ultimately, you have to think about what’s best for you and the baby. Feeling stressed is one of those components that, while is normal in everyday life, it’s the last thing you need, especially during the first trimester.
And when you feel unwell, you feel stressed, but you also might feel you let people down. Being unwell and then having to cancel on someone can become a pattern that you have no choice but to fall into. Being unwell is par for the course, and if you’ve got friends that understand, then this is all the better. One of the major stresses associated with being pregnant is going to work.
You don’t want to let your boss down, and if you are particularly unwell on a certain day, it can only compound the anxiety. The more anxious you feel, the more you could potentially think you are endangering your baby. Ultimately, we’ve got to put ourselves first. If we aren’t feeling well, we should explain that we need to take time off. But also, if you feel you don’t have an employer that understands your predicament, it’s important to go to HR. You need to feel supported during pregnancy, and if you worry about going into work, or you feel that the job is just too stressful, it is your right to ask for a more accommodating way to ensure you complete the duties asked of you.
You’ve negotiated all the trials and tribulations associated with the sickness, personal problems, and sheer anxiety associated with the first trimester, it may seem like plain sailing, but even if you overcome the sleep problems associated with pregnancy, stopped feeling sick in the mornings, and don’t feel too bad in yourself, the act of giving birth could be one of the most anxiety-inducing things you ever go through.
The big problem that people talk about in terms of the birth, especially unhelpful relatives, is that it’s the most difficult thing that anyone will ever go through. This isn’t helpful, but also we have to remember that it’s what we were born to do. In a biological sense, we are built for it. That’s not to say that it is an easy experience, but there’s a lot of debate as to whether modern medicine helps or hinders various pregnancies.
While this is not the place for debate, what you can do to ensure that you navigate a healthier birth is to undergo a course of hypnobirthing. Hypnobirthing is all about preparing your mind for the birth. And while it can lean on the side of meditation, it’s really all about focusing your mind and understanding that this is something you have control over.
Because numerous hospitals are quick to give you pain relief and the like, you can control it, just as long as there are minimal complications. A lot of people view giving birth as this almighty stress, and the most traumatic thing in the world, but partially this is due to so much supposed “received wisdom.” And with this in mind, it’s hardly a surprise that people feel anxious about it!
It is not an easy road, but it is certainly one that we can navigate better. Pregnancy should be a joyous time, where we get to know our baby and prepare them for the outside world. But now we live in an age of numerous stresses, that our baby is born into a world of anxiety. But we can do is ensure that we are as calm as possible so that our baby can have a fighting chance of entering the world stress-free.