One of the biggest things that we fear when it comes to love, is getting hurt. How do you have enough trust in someone to the point of being able to let go and allow them to have that vulnerability from you? It’s a really hard thing to do, and not one to be taken lightly. You should never give away your heart to just anyone. It’s a fragile thing and can only take so much pain. So you should protect it when necessary.

But how do you know? How do you know that they’re that oh so famous one? The kind of one that we look on sites like and fantasize about the ring that we’ll one day wear for the rest of our lives?   

Well, the truth is, there’s no simple answer. You don’t know until you know. And however frustrating that is to hear – it’s true. But in the meantime, here’s what not to do.

Over analyse

One of the most common things that we’re all guilty of doing, is over analyzing things. And the reason most of us do it is because it’s so hard not to do. When we’re in a relationship and something bad happens that’s out of our control, the only thing that we can have control over, is our thoughts.

And this is why your mind races one hundred miles a minute while you go back to the bad event and replay it over and over again, picking out different moments and thinking about the finest of details. While it’s good to rethink a situation, there’s a fine line between that and driving yourself mad.

So the best advice? Speak to your partner about what happened and discuss it properly. If you have questions that you feel need to be answered before you move on – ask them. Then you can make up your mind about what you want to do. Find more tips for communicating on

Lose yourself

While it’s very easy to get consumed by your other half, it’s very important that you don’t lose yourself. You may be in love, you may want to be with that one person all the time. And while that’s okay, don’t forget about yourself.

Sometimes you may be so distracted by the other person that you stop doing things you used to. That may be a hobby like drawing or playing music. Or maybe you used to swim a lot and now you don’t. Regardless of what it is, make sure you still do you. It’s important that you have your own thing going on so you don’t end up relying solely on your partner.

You have a life so don’t shut things down just because you’re not alone anymore. This includes your friends. Don’t be that person who loses their social life by pushing away the friends that they have just because they’ve found someone else. That’s not how relationships are going to last, and it’s certainly not right.

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