We are all worthy of love, but convincing ourselves of this fact is where it gets tricky.
There are so many factors in our lives that have told us otherwise, our environment, work, family, friends etc.. That we start believing all those other things and stop believing in ourselves.
We have this notion that we must be perfect in life and until we are perfect, we are not worthy of good things happening to us. This belief is already flawed simply because no one is perfect in this world. No one. So, if we operated on this belief alone, then none of us would be worthy of love.
Where and when did we stop believing in ourselves? Because that is what it all boils down to. Are you good enough? And the answer is yes, you have always been good enough. But you have to believe it first. Self-judgment can be the cruelest thing we put on ourselves. How many times have you told yourself, if I could just be better at this or do this differently, then my life would be perfect.
This places doubt in ourselves and that we will never measure up to what we think we should be. “Should” is a word that plants self-doubt, that we can never live up to that “ideal” of what we should be instead of what we are. I believe it is healthier to remove the word “should” from your vocabulary altogether.
In order to feel worthy of love from others we must first learn how to love ourselves. Learning how to love yourself is a brave thing because it involves acceptance in yourself and everything that you are. All your imperfections and flaws, your scars, your mistakes and failures. But all these things are part of living and being human. These imperfections made you, you. These things were necessary and had to happen in order for you to be who you are. And, there is no one like you in this world. Just be yourself, believe in yourself and let love in.
That is a beautiful truth. Learn to love yourself and you will feel deserving of love. And you will feel worthy of love from others. Love is a brave thing. Always be brave in love, in loving yourself, in loving others, because it is the only thing that can save us.
