Relationship Dilemma: Love or Leave?

If you can’t respect them, leave. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. If there’s no trust, how can there be love?

The greatest question you will ever face in a relationship is whether to try harder or to leave. I know people say what matters is happiness but let me go a step further and say this, peace of mind is most important.

Your partner should be a source of comfort,not the reason behind your anxiety. Many people continue to stay in unhealthy relationships because they feel trapped. They feel they won’t love another as much again. People with low self esteem may think no one else will love them. I’ve known people who have suffered different forms of abuse in the name of love and I wish they’d known that wasn’t love.

From my personal experience all I can say is, if your not at peace leave. If you can’t respect them, leave. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. If there’s no trust,how can there be love? Let them go.

I don’t claim to be an expert on relationships but in my humble opinion there are a few things you need to ask yourself and if you’re honest with yourself the truth will manifest itself.

Ask yourself these questions:

Thinking of them makes you feel

a) Warm & fuzzy

b) Mildly uncomfortable

c) Anxious

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Do you respect them?

a) Yes

b) Haven’t thought about it/unsure

c) No

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Do you think they lie to you?

a) No

b) Sometimes

c) Yes

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Have they ever cheated on you (emotionally /physically)?

a) No

b )I think so.

c) Yes

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Do your friends and family like your partner?

a) Yes

b) They tolerate each other

c) No

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Does your partner respect you and your choices?

a) Yes,they’re very supportive.

b) Sometimes

c) No, he/she is always telling me I’m stupid or how he/she knows better.

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Do either of you feel the need to check each other’s phone/mails etc.?

a) No

b) Sometimes, but it’s only because I don’t trust others.

c) Yes,I’ve learned to be cautious

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Does your partner actually listen to you/how your day went/why you’re upset etc.?

a) Always,they’re my best friend

b) Yes and no

c) No,it’s so annoying

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How often do you fight?

a) Maybe once a week
b) 3 / 4 times a week
c) Everyday

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Are you at peace?

a) Yes
b) I guess
c) Not really, but I’m ok.

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*DISCLAIMER:
These questions do not in any way comment upon relationships. They are meant to force you to think about what YOU want & feel.

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