Life is funny sometimes especially when you think about what we as humans talk about in conversation and how we cover almost every topic under the sun except for the topics that can mean the most to us.
We talk about the weather, sports, food, health, entertainment and make small talk about so many inconsequential things with such ease. I must admit right here, I am not a fan of small talk. I will not engage in it and I don’t see the point in it other than it’s a big waste of my time. However, the one topic we do have trouble communicating about is… love. And this topic happens to be one of the most important to us. And yet, we remain silent on the topic mostly out of fear.
Talking about love requires us to open our hearts and this puts us in a very vulnerable position. All our thoughts, emotions and feelings are on display for the entire world to see. Vulnerability can be scary to most people simply because it involves wearing your heart on your sleeve. Maybe that is why we are afraid to open up regarding our love life. Not only do we have trouble talking about love with others but we also have trouble talking about love with our partners, lovers, spouses etc.
Miscommunication or no communication is what can hurt love the most. What we don’t talk about, what we are afraid to talk about or even the things we say but do not mean can result in miscommunication. Feelings can become hurt over what is not being said and if we are afraid to talk about our feelings, how much of love is being lost? Between silence and fear much of love is lost to us.
How can we do better at talking about things closest to us? Finding souls that are alike to yours is a good start. These people can be soulmates or like a tribe to you as they will understand you. Once you trust someone you will be more at ease with opening up and allowing yourself to reveal your innermost thoughts and feelings. They will even understand your silences. If I cannot sit with someone in silence and be comfortable then I just can’t be friends with them.
Feeling safe in someone’s presence will allow you to bare your soul, talking about the things closest to your heart. This will help you feel more connected with others and it will enrich your life.
