I’ve never been the type of person to set a New Year Resolution. I feel like they’re something that people stick with for about a month or two before it becomes a distant memory or quickly dropped. This year, though – There are some things that you should leave behind in 2018.
Leave your toxic relationships behind. Easier said than done, right? Memories are going to be there, and they’re going to hurt, but the memories hurt less than continuing to try to solve the issues of another human or carrying on trying to rescue someone. A toxic relationship can be defined as someone that even the simple thought of can give you anxiety, it can cause you pain and frustration, it can cause you to feel like you’re inferior like you’ll never be good enough. It doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship, sometimes it’s a friendship.
Leave your self-doubt behind.
Again, easier said than done, but you need to stop and think. You need to believe that you’re worthy. As cliche as it sounds, you’ve got to follow your dreams. You’ve got to chase them until you feel that you’ve given it your all. Sometimes it’s scary, other times it’s exhilarating, but either way – in the end at least you can say that you’ve tried.
Leave behind memories that are holding you back.
Do I even need to say it? I know – it’s easier said than done. Memories are just that, they’re memories. They’re tidbits of the past. They can trigger emotions from you that nothing else can. They can remind you of what could have been, what you feel like should have been, but overall, you need to walk away from them. Not saying to pretend that they never existed, as memories, they’re a piece of you. They’re something that helped to build you into what you are now. They’ve helped you become you – but when you find yourself looking at pictures, rereading those text messages, you’re allowing yourself to be held back. Take that step forward, take that moment and accept that it’s a memory for a reason, and move forward.
This one may be difficult – but if you have family members that are drowning you… let them go.
Let go of the pain and anxiety that they may be causing. Let go of the anger, the negative emotion that they’re causing you and let cut off contact if you need to. The best thing that you can do for yourself is let go. Just because they’re blood doesn’t mean that they’re a necessity in your life.
Let go of your grudges.
I saw a quote when I was younger, “Holding a grudge is letting someone live in your head rent free.” It’s like a poison. It’ll eat you alive and most of the time the person that you have the grudge against doesn’t even know – let alone care. It’s not giving the person a “get out of jail free card”, but it’s giving yourself freedom. It’s giving yourself the time, the freedom to move forward in life. Let yourself move forward in the world without the unnecessary pain and anger. Let go of the anxiety of the grudge.
These aren’t really New Year’s Resolutions – They’re things that will create a better today, a better tomorrow. A better life for you in this world. It will create a better way for you to move forward – a better way to move on in life. Allow yourself to refresh, rejuvenate and allow yourself to start over. The best thing that you can do for yourself in this new year is push forward. Look into the future instead of the past. The past is something that can’t be changed – the future, well. That’s up to you.