Why is unrequited love so hard to get over? We ask ourselves this very question many times because it is baffling how stuck we can become in our own lives. Love is a very complicated thing and you love who you love. It is that simple and that complicated. How many times have you tried to forget someone or walk away from a relationship? The answer is probably too many times to count. Getting over someone you once loved and still probably love is the hardest thing any of us will try and do.
Unfortunately, when I say hardest, it can be one of the most difficult things we are to face in a love relationship. How do we stop loving someone? The answer is, we don’t stop loving someone but in some cases, it can be easier than others. Some short term relationships not involving intense love and passion, the couple may be able to move on a little sooner. The longer relationships or even the ones where love and passion were more intense and you become so deeply entwined with that person it becomes much more difficult to forget them and everything you once shared. In fact, I am even going to venture to say it may be an impossibility to try and forget them.
I am not going to sugar coat unrequited love and say the usual things such as “time heals all wounds” or “you will find someone else”. The reality is you don’t want to forget and heal these wounds and you don’t want someone else. You want that person. Period. I am even going to tell you that in some cases you may never get over that person. You will always compare them to everyone else and no one seems to measure up to them. And the reason is, you don’t feel the same way you felt with that other person. This is what keeps us hanging on is that “feeling” we had with that person. The emotional investment we made in them. How they know us inside and out, every secret we shared with them. This is what we can’t forget and this is what we can’t live without. This is why it can be so difficult to forget them and give up hope.
How do we heal from unrequited love? How do we go on with our lives still loving that person? The answer is we do go on and continue living but it may be a life that feels like there is always a piece missing from you. But reality has a way of pulling us back into this thing called life and we go on day to day, living our lives as best we can. Some of us will find love again, and some of us won’t. And we keep hope alive that what was meant for us will always come back to us. In the meantime, be grateful for the love you do have in your life. Love is a precious thing, never take it for granted. Always believe that the universe works in our favor and we can never give up hope in the power and magic of love.