Broken relationships can be tough. They could be familial or romantic relationships, either way when they break it hurts like hell. Different people cope differently. Some veg out in front of the tv with ice cream and junk food, some get drunk while others just try to bury their feelings and continue as if everything were normal. But the fact is no matter how you cope the pain remains.
I learned the hard way, that no matter how you think you are coping, the fact is you’re not. All the above ‘coping mechanisms’ are just an escape from reality and sooner or later you’re forced to confront all the feelings you’ve been running away from.
So my first advice, feel your feelings. Don’t try and dull the pain. Cry, take some time alone, do whatever it is you want to do but feel your emotions. It’s ok to feel.
In relation to romantic relationships maybe getting rid of certain things might help like photographs, gifts, clothes etc. It varies from person to person and there is no wrong or right. Do whatever it takes to feel better.
There are times you may feel like your world is nothing but a dark ball of pain but remember you have to get through this and you will.
When you feel like you can’t cry anymore or when you realise/ or someone else make you realise that you’ve been wallowing for far too long, take a step back. Evaluate for yourself what you want and how you’re going to get it. It starts out small, maybe just getting out of bed or going to work or forming a routine again. The one good thing about grief is it ebbs so when you feel like yourself again or when you want to feel like yourself again that itself is a huge step.
Slowly you heal, the world will stop being gloomy and the sunshine will seem brighter. Remember time heals all wounds.
Getting over relationships is never easy and it reminds me of something I once read. The light at the end of the tunnel isn’t the illusion, the tunnel is…