“Some people seem to have a black belt in selfishness… Ninja narcissists with no regard to how they impact those around them… steer clear!” – Steve Maraboli
We’ve all encountered these takers. Those who create storms, but get upset when it rains. They may be a friend, parent, or neighbor… the point is, they’re all around us. In order to not be dragged down into their drama-filled life, you need some remedies.
They have a keen ability to see the negative in everything. The world is out to get them. Their poor me attitude is like a vacuum, sucking in everything and everyone around them. They always need to “one-up you” in stories, and it’s always about them.
Remedy: If they’re a friend or family member, you may want to distance yourself from them to maintain a healthy mindset. If you DON’T want to distance yourself you may say, “For every negative thing you say, tell me something you’re grateful for.” It might be a requirement for your conversations.
Everything is about them. They have a sense of entitlement and crave admiration. They likely lack empathy and a very limited capacity for love. If you don’t do things their way, they withhold, punish or become cold.
Remedy: No more surprises. Stop expecting them to be something they’re not. If they’re a liar, stop being surprised when they lie to you. Never allow your self-worth to be dependent on their opinion of you. It’s best not to surround yourself with this type of person, but we all know that this isn’t realistic for every circumstance.
The Control Freak:
These people have an opinion about EVERYTHING, and they aren’t afraid to tell you how to live your life. They don’t understand boundaries, and will likely make you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing. While many control freaks mean well, it doesn’t mean you should allow them to control you.
Remedy: Repeat after me, “I can’t control the controller.” Got it? Good. It might help not to share so much with them. If they start to meddle, try to tell them confidently that you appreciate their advice, but you need to work it out alone.